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By the time I turned one I had lived in three different countries. No, my parents weren’t missionaries or refugees. We were just looking for the right place to settle down. We found that place in Sydney and we’ve been here ever since.

After my experience with Amy, I wasn’t expecting Tamara and Zoe to keep in touch. So I wasn’t altogether heartbroken when they didn’t. I just figured it was time to make new friends again.

I was too little to remember the stress and excitement that accompanied those moves. I didn’t even understand what moving was. Not until I was five and I found out my best friend Amy* was moving away.

I now know the suburb she moved to was only 10 minutes’ drive away. But when you’re five (and can’t drive), that 10 minutes seemed like forever.

“I’ll visit you,” Amy promised. 

“I’ll call you,” I said.

I still remember waving goodbye as she turned and walked away. But she never did come to visit. And I never ended up calling.

It wasn’t long before I had two new best friends—a school best friend and a church best friend. They were special to me in different ways. Tamara* and I played pranks on our teachers, came up with entrepreneurial ideas and teased each other about our first crushes. Meanwhile, I loved going to Zoe’s* house where we spent countless afternoons making up stories about her toys, challenging each other to races and trying to cook. Around the same time, their families decided it was time to move away.

After my experience with Amy, I wasn’t expecting Tamara and Zoe to keep in touch. So I wasn’t altogether heartbroken when they didn’t. I just figured it was time to make new friends again.

The problem was that by the time you reach Year 6, you know all the kids in your grade. If you haven’t become close friends before, you’re unlikely to suddenly discover each other now. 

It was around this time that “Best Friend” necklaces became popular. There were two necklaces involved, each with half of a heart dangling from the chain. When you put the two halves together, you had a complete heart with the words “Best Friends” inscribed on it. Oh, how I wanted one of those necklaces! But where was I going to find a new best friend? 

“Will you be my best friend, Vania?” The request came from Cherie*, a girl I was friends with but had never been particularly close to. I hesitated, knowing the real reason I was being asked was that Cherie had recently had a fight with her ex-best friend Michelle*.

Cherie sensed my hesitation. “You can have this,” she offered. My eyes brightened. It was half of a Best Friends necklace. I quickly agreed. It probably won’t surprise you to learn that our “best friendship” didn’t last all that long.

As I write this, a close friend is preparing to move interstate. Through the four years we’ve known each other, she has shown me shortcuts in my own hometown, challenged me to step outside my comfort zone and urged me to depend more on God.

And in doing so, she has pointed me towards my true Best Friend. One who will always be there when I need Him, who will never move away and who loves me more than anyone else on earth.


* Real names not used.
 


Vania Chew is PR/editorial assistant for Adventist Record.